January 20, 2009

ladies touch!

since i seem to be the only girl on this blog who posts. LETS GET MUSHY!


so maybe im not going to be a lesbian...but im just one of those ''emotional little girls'' (quote unquote) who love the idea of love. The wierd thing is ive NEVER been the type to fall easily but it seems the one guy who just cant love me right i fell super hard for. and it wont go away. so Does that mean that im just a dumb girl in a dumb situation or is this really the person for me. i must think hes worth it because i keep coming back and vice versa. anyway let me explain my last post, It always seems that the GIRL is always the one who is emotionally attached and because of this its harder for them to move on and they're heart gets broken as to guys simply have the ability to never look back. Why is it that whenever i get into an argument with my love interest im stuck on the event all day. It affects me in a way that nothing else can affect me and he can go on with his day in a non depressing manner. It doesnt mean he loves me any less or that the things he tells me is all a lie its just that BOYS DONT HAVE THE EMOTIONAL STRINGS GIRLS HAVE. In a sad sick way, its something that us ladies cant change about ourselves even though most like me wish they could. Not only do i wish that i could not care about the petty arguments we get into that unnecessarily get bigg but i wish that i wouldnt do it because honestly its us girls downfall. What nigga wants to deal with a girl who calls after they hang up 33 to 50 times until they answer, or someone who cries at any imperfect thig that goes on within the relationship or better yet someone who takes advantage of a guy caring and does the same things wrong over and over because they can. as sad as it is in society females have to be perfect no matter how much dirt males pull the ladies always have to keep it real...real being fake because nobodies perfect. in conclusion all im saying is im basically taking the fellas side...ladies we gotta grow up!

14 comments:

New Kei City said...

i understand what u mean...but love works both ways so i wouldn't pen it all on the girls tho ... but like when u love someone soo much is like hard to not act so emotional because you want that person to love you back the same and that person has your heart and no matter how you try to move on you can't. a guy that totally makes you nervous..and hes the only one that can do that to you. i just feel its some guys don't see when us girls let a guy in our heart he has it. and thats why i believe we get too emotional and over care like where is he , what he doing , who he talking to..get mad at lil things... all that stuff. if its true i don't think you would have to call back so many times after hanging up.. he answers right away. and if lil things like arguments stays on your mind .. your in love. and thats the most beauitful feeling ever....

all that i typed i feel it now myself.. so i had to reply .

showing love.

Anonymous said...

tell me about it, i can't seem to get rid of this feeling i still love my ex and it's crazy cause he got over it but i cant we had 2 years together and it seems like it happened to fast =(

but dont worry we some soldiers soon we find the right guy who really feeling us and we gotta act like dudes act towards us at times.

Tay said...

*stands up and claps*
oh my lanta yes! finally somebody understands. this is sorta kinda my situation. i was just telling my friend she needs to get over this dude who is playing the shxt outta her AND some OTHER girl. crazy right...psh long story. you right though cause sometimes girls can't let go as fast as boys...

Gabrielle said...

hey amanda, its gabrielle.
i just wanted to say that i agree with you that with guys, us girls always fall hard them and we can never get our emotions under control. it has happened to me too many times. one time i even changed my password to my crush's name (i was 11 at the time). now that i'm almost 14, i have learned from past experiences and from my sisters and mother that never let your guard down for a man. If he wants to mess with you and play with your emotions, leave. If he wants you to come back, then he must really care for you. If he dosen't, then leave him to the whore that wanted to be with. As for being emotional, i'm right there with you because sometimes when guys get to you, all you can do is get sad and angry. Its something that we all have to work on but its doable (if its a word). and when you two argue, its nothing big. all couples argue. if you dnt, then something is wrong. so dnt get depressed when you two argue because in the end, you guys will make up and be happy again. i know this is long but all im trying to say is that its natural if u get emotional over a guy, but dnt let it ruin your life. its also natural if you two break up one week and are back together next. when you argue, its something that all couples do and its alright. dnt worry about it, eventually you'll make up with each other. dnt stress about it though, because one day you will fall in love and it will be the most happiest time in your life.

love,peace&hairgrease
Gabrielle
ps: i hope bella browne is successful.

Vee said...

Heya

Amanda noo it does not make you a dumb girl.
most girls fall that and yea it's weird. cos then you think he's soo perfect and you think he's the one but he just doesnt love you right.


i was like that with this guy called Alex. and it was as if he possessed every single quality on the list. any stuff happened and now i absolutely hate him for what he did.

but yea I AGREE us girls do need to grow over some things. if the guy doesn't answer the second time stop calling. and the problem is since the guy is "perfect" we think we cant measure up to his "perfectness" . so we worry so much that he probably doesnt love us anymore blah blah and we try too hard. relationships are a one person thing TWO people are involved. sometimes one person shouldnt be into it more than the other.

i remember when i used to be this sensitve emotional freak and one time i just broke down and one of my teachers told me toughen up and 4 years later I have.

anywy i hope you find your head around this. smile =]
xoxo

Vee said...

wow that was one long comment lol ^^

MUSiCiNMii30 said...

YUH ARE RiGHT MOST GiRLS DO DO THAT, MY MYSEFL iN GENERAL.....I HAVE A CAREFREE ATTiTUDE SO iJUST BRuSH JUNK OFF, iDONT LiKE TO PUT ALL MY EMOTiONS iNTO THiNGS CAUSE OF PAST EXPERiENCES.........iM USE TO GETTiN HURT, SOMEONE LEAViN AND ALL THAT, SO iDONT REALLY EXPECT MUCH. THOUGH iHAVE MANY (GiRL) FRiENDS THAT COME TO ME FOR ADViCE ABOUT THEiR RELATiONSHiPS, WHEN iLiSTEN TO THEiR STORiES OR iSSUES, MOST DO SOUND STUPiD AND iT iS MOSTLY THE FEMALES FAULT, BUT THEN AGAiN MALES PLAY A ROLE iN iT TOO......SO BASiCALLY YUH GOTTA SEE THE ViEWS FROM BOTH SiDES......BUT iFEEL YUH :D

Anonymous said...

i agree with the guys too...maybe us girls do need to tone it down a bit. at the same time though guys wouldn't be getting annoyed with a girls constant "nagging" if they just listened for once. i'm not saying that some guys don't...and props to the guys that do...but a lot of them do neglect to pay attention to what's in front of them. when you love someone both of you should work with each other, not try to keep up with the other.

OfficialMiszPinky said...

i have to agree with you manda, but us girls cant help it. its in our nature to get emotional, freak out over small things and all that. we just need to learn how to put our guards up, and it wont be that hard for us.

Anonymous said...

you sometimes can't show your emotions to a dude they will mistake you for a weak female and always hurt you.

i learned not to let a dude see that im really loving him to the point like some females do even "stalk" a nigga needs his space i need mines; all you got to do is brush a nigga off dont let a nigga get to you, your a independent young female just move on. if he can see how much you truely love him or if he sees it but dont do nothing about it then he isn't the one even though it hurts you got to get over it

take care,manderzzzz love ya!

Anonymous said...

tell him how you feel! dont tell us!

lol...

Ciao Bella said...

well im sure all these girls have summed it up for you. keep ya head up and dont fret it too much. You only love and care for those who love and care for you. and even if a guy cant sometimes show his feelings, when he truly cares for his girl, then he needs to. Its not bout being a weak guy or being a weak girl. when i a relationship, you have to bare your flaws your pet peeves your likes and dislikes. It builds a stronger wall. Sometimes it hurts when they let go and the wall is broken but know that if they truly care they come back and if they dont it was not meant to be and there is always someone to come mend your heart and rebuild your wall. Like i get you. so much in fact! me and this dude were together and like we cared for each other and just like that it ended. due to some mutual understanding however, but sometimes its so hard to think its over, and its hard to realize he has moved on. girls do have emotional strings and its harder for us. but keep ya head up mama! it will work out in the end.

Amanda said...

thank you for the comments. excuse my love life, its complicated lol

Anonymous said...

wow, i can't believe you wood really take the guys side on this one. i dont really think it's a matter of "us" [women] growing up. women are more in touch w/ their emotional side because it's built in us. You can't help but 2 feel your feeling and feel them hard!
Guys need to learn that. and yea, there r them female that b takin shit 2 far, stuff that guys cant deal w/, but i dont think we r the wrong 1's i think we're b wronged!

Sannia